Normally I use my blog to write about software development, but I’ve decided to branch out a bit with this entry. In order to help my fading memory, I’ve decided to try write about small episodes that I can still remember from my life so that I can “record” them for later.
The ones that are suitable for public consumption, I may post on my blog.
So the first instalment of this follows:
Everyone loves a good fight. Or at least all men enjoy a good fight. Or, at the very least, all boys love a good fight. So when word spreads that two boys are going to get into a fight at lunch time in grade 7, everyone marks it on the calendar.
I donâ€™t recall the reason for the fight, but it didnâ€™t really matter. All that mattered was that Trevor and Kris were going to have a fight at lunch time. Real fights were a very rare and precious thing. Of course, we were all experienced â€œplayâ€ fighters, but that was different than a real fight. The fact that we had never had a â€œrealâ€ fight at school didnâ€™t didnâ€™t feel like a fact at all. Television had provided us with vicarious memories of countless â€œrealâ€ fights, so I felt like I was a veteran at this fight-watching game.
At 5 foot 10, Kris was the tallest boy in my grade, but not particularly stocky. Trevor was more typical in height. Frankly I donâ€™t remember what a typical height was for a boy in grade 7. I know Krisâ€™ height because he was the tallest. I was 4â€™11â€, which I remember because I was, well, me. And because I was one of the shortest boys in my grade consistently up to that point. I even had the honor of holding the class placard during class photos a few times. So when I say that Trevor was a typical height for a boy that age, I would guess he must have been between 5â€™2â€ and 5â€™6â€.
Given the height difference, the smart money was on Kris winning the fight. There was no talk about what the rules were. At least that I can remember. Fight rules were considered self-evident to a 12 year old boy. We imagined that the fight would be over when one of the boys was knocked down or started crying, or â€œtappedâ€ out. Having grown up with a steady diet of Rocky, I didnâ€™t imagine a â€œknock-outâ€ was a real possibility. Despite my Dadâ€™s insistence that no human being could withstand the kind of punches that Rocky took by the dozen – I preferred to believe the humans could take 15 rounds of heavy-weight level punches to the face and walk away with only a few bruises.
The morning of the fight, every boy in Ms. Rempelâ€™s grade 7 class was looking up at the clock more frequently than usual. We were counting down the seconds to the 12 oâ€™clock lunch bell so that we could attend the highly anticipated â€œfightâ€. Finally, the bell rang so we could get our lunches from the cloak room. Only 15 more minutesâ€¦ we had to eat our lunches inside the classroom. The 12:15 bell signaled that it was time to go outside to fightâ€¦ er.. play.
As I mentioned before, this was the first scheduled fight that had ever happened at Peterson Road, so there was no protocol in place. No agreed upon time or place. Only an agreement that it would happen. The first 10 minutes of lunch were spent wandering around the field with everyone asking each other if they knew when or where it was happening. Pairs of us roamed the field, then merged with other pairs and continued roaming as a group until most of the grade 7 (male) student body was roaming the field together. We settled on a venue near the back of the field. Somewhere sufficiently remote that the school supervisors wouldnâ€™t notice what was going down. At some point the group fanned out into a circle to give the combatants a makeshift ring inside which they could safely â€œfightâ€. For a good long while, though, Trevor and Kris just stood there at the perimeter of the ring, both acting shy, as if this were an elementary school dance where the boys and girls just stood on opposite sides of the gym – too shy to ask anyone on the other side to dance. At least thatâ€™s what our elementary school dances looked like, but I digress..
At some point someone, probably John, said â€œso is there gonna be a fight or what?â€. John was always good at frank ice-breakers. Trevor slowly approached his taller opponent and wound up with a punch
Truth be told, this happened nearly 30 years ago, so I canâ€™t provide an accurate blow by blow. I do remember that each boy landed at least one punch, and the consensus was that Trevor had fared much better than we expected – and in fact may have even won the fight. It was not a stellar display of martial arts skills. It resembled a hockey fight, where both players spend most of the fight all tied up in their own jerseys. Neither fighter had any ground game, which would have come in handy once it morphed into a wrestling match with Trevor and Kris rolling around on the grass.
Unfortunately, our fighting circle was not as inconspicuous as we had hoped. It only took a minute or two for the noon hour supervisors to descend on us and stop it. Trevor and Kris were pried apart. No big bruises. No blood. Both had red faces partly from the exertion, and partly from having taken a blow or two to the face.
After Kris and Trevor were led on a perp walk to the office, some of the rest of us were summoned to principal Swobodaâ€™s office as well.
Now, in my recollection, there were between 5 and 10 of us in the principalâ€™s office, waiting for him. In retrospect, that number doesnâ€™t jive with my earlier image that the â€œentire male grade 7 student bodyâ€ was attending the fight, as there were about 30 boys in my grade. I can think of a few explanations for this discrepancy, but in any case, there were 5 or 10 of us in the principalâ€™s office. I remember specifically Steve (the other Steve), John, Ezra ,and Quinn, but there were others.
Mr. Swoboda, always a busy guy, burst through the door and sat down at his desk.
â€œDo you know why youâ€™re here?â€, he asked, rhetorically.
We all looked around at each other – knowing that it wasnâ€™t wise to volunteer to become the spokesperson for this group. â€œYouâ€™re here because, if not for you, this fight would never have happened. The people who watch a fight are just as much, or more, of a problem than the fighters themselves.â€
He then began to address each of us individually. Asking questions like â€œdo you think itâ€™s smart to be encouraging your friends to fightâ€ etc…
When he came to me, he asked. â€œAnd you! Iâ€™m surprised to see you here. What do you have to say for yourself?â€
My response: â€œI guess I fell into peer pressureâ€.